Do you have dreams for the future? Have you ever set goals, tried, failed, and given up? Have you believed you’re a failure? If so, you’re not alone.
But what if it’s a lie? What if the truth is that setting goals, failing, resetting, falling, and getting up is an integral part of success?
Would you stop loving someone because they gave something a go and it didn’t work out? Of course not. So why would you give up on yourself?
Learning to love ourselves in the middle of failure is as important as achieving our goals. We discover that we’re lovable no matter what – and that if we really want something – it takes hard work.
Is fear holding you back? Love is the antidote.
Stop. Breathe. Receive the gift of loving yourself in the process.
Learning to love ourselves in the middle of failure is as important as achieving our goals.
How am I able to love myself when missing a hard-fought goal?
How could I reach out to a close friend who has missed a significant goal in their life through no fault of their own?
What if you decided to make joy a goal?
We make goals out of less impacting things; we put our heart and soul into them. What if discovering and sharing joy was one of your aims in life?
Imagine what that would look like. The positive impact you could have on everyone around you. You can change the world – one joy-filled person at a time.
The cultivation of joy is deliberate. Joy is deep and abiding—not dependant on circumstances—while happiness finds us in the moment and may leave as quickly as it arrived.
We choose joy while happiness chooses us. Happiness is fleeting; joy lasts.
And the secret to cultivating joy? Mother Teresa discovered it.
“A joyful heart is the normal result of a heart burning with love. She gives most who gives with joy.”
Stop. Breathe. Receive joy as your portion and make it your goal in life.
A joyful heart is the normal result of a heart burning with love
Am I prepared to make joy a goal in my life?
How could I help those around me to seek joy rather than expecting it to come to them?
Make peace with your goals. Make peace with the dreams not realised. Make peace with the ones you achieved but weren’t of your making. Make peace with knowing some destinations may never be reached.
And once you’ve made peace with the past. Stop. Breathe. Be in the moment. Stay in the moment for as long as you need.
And then—when the pain subsides, and your breath is not laboured—begin to dream. Dream again, and let dreams ignite your heart once more.
Talk to a trusted someone about your dreams, new goals, and heart’s desires. Then, find one or two to walk beside you as you discover the courage to try again.
Make peace with your goals. But, more importantly—make peace with yourself.
Stop. Breathe. Receive peace as a gift and learn to make peace with your life.
Make peace with your goals, and then learn to dream again
Have I held onto goals that, by doing so, have harmed my life?
Is there someone around me who I could help to move past an old goal and establish a new one?
Incredible feats require great patience. The bigger the goal, the more patience required. It’s okay to have interim goals, smaller steps that bring you closer to your dreams.
Practice patience with yourself and extend it to those around you.
If you’re patient in the process, you’ll achieve so much more than your physical goal. You’ll emerge out the other side a different person. You’ll find yourself walking in authenticity and integrity. You’ll inspire others to do likewise.
Stress and anxiety are creativity killers. Sometimes goals require us to switch off and rest.
Impatience is the enemy of creativity. Don’t let your enemy dictate the approach to achieving your goals.
Stop. Breathe. Receive patience and learn to partner with it as a friend.
Practice patience with yourself and remain patient in the process of reaching your goals
What happens to me when I’m impatient with my goals?
Who do I need to reach out to for help so I can remain patient in reaching my goals?
Do you have kindness goals? Is it something you’ve ever considered a worthy goal for your life?
Kindness is more than an attitude or the occasional random act. Kindness is an end in itself; it’s something we can consciously pursue as a lifestyle.
What would happen if we lived kindly towards ourselves and others without any expectation?
A wise person said that “Kindness is one of the greatest gifts you can bestow upon another. If someone is in need, lend them a helping hand. Do not wait for a thank you. True kindness lies within the act of giving without the expectation of something in return.”
We must start with us. Make it a goal of your life to be kind to yourself and your fellow humans.
Stop. Breathe. Receive Kindness towards yourself and set it as a goal for your life.
Kindness is an end in itself; It’s something we can consciously pursue as a lifestyle.
Should I have a goal around how kind I can be to myself?
Are there group goals in my life where I could be kind to others and add value to the process?
Are your goals good? Are your life goals healthy, constructive, and lifegiving for you and those around you?
Have you evaluated your goals in the light of “goodness”? Conversely, do you have goals that don’t display goodness—but are instead evidence of selfish ambition, entitlement, or perfectionism?
Brené Brown has a great take on our motivation when setting goals, “Healthy striving is self-focused: “How can I improve?” Perfectionism is other-focused: “What will they think?”
Can our goals also be an expression of goodness?
What goals do you have that bring life, love, light, and increase?
A wise person once said, “Goodness is the only investment that never fails.”
Invest wisely in goals that bring you joy and leave a legacy of love.
Stop. Breathe. Receive wisdom to know which goals to pursue in life.
Goodness is the only investment that never fails
What measure of goodness am I expecting when establishing my goals?
Is there an overriding expression of goodness I carry in helping others with their goals?
Setting goals is one thing—seeing them through is another matter entirely. So many people have big dreams; it takes commitment and determination to make them a reality.
Be faithful to your goals. Persevere when they appear to be disappearing into the distance. Nothing worth having comes without some struggle and measure of striving. It’s how we know they’re worth our while.
Be faithful in the little things, in the daily steps that lead to the fulfilment of goals and dreams. It’s the little things that add up to big things.
As Paul Kelly sings, “From little things, big things grow.”
Don’t despise the day of small beginnings.
A wise person said, “Big dreams are only powerful when anchored in daily discipline.”
Stop. Breathe. Receive the revelation of the power of faithfulness to your dreams.
Be faithful in the little things. It’s the little things that add p to big things.
How much do I believe in myself to be faithful to my goals?
Is there someone who needs my faithfulness to help them remain faithful to their goals?
It’s great to run headlong at your dreams. It’s a joy to let the process consume your waking and invade your nights. But then life happens. Daily realities demand your attention. The kids are sick, the job is demanding, a friend needs your support.
These are the moments when we lose sight of our goals. And it’s okay.
Be gentle with yourself. You can’t always be on. You have to switch off every now and then and simply be.
If you can treat yourself gently—you’ll be gentle with others. You’ll be able to gently and kindly encourage others to pursue their dreams. You’ll be open to receiving encouragement. You’ll become a role model, champion, and faithful friend.
Dreams and goals are essential for life. Be gentle with yourself in the process.
Stop. Breathe. Receive the gift of gentleness and share it freely with others.
When you are gentle with yourself, you’re empowered to encourage others to pursue their dreams.
Can I feel gentle with myself at the same time as pursuing my goals?
Is there a close friend who needs my gentleness in their atmosphere so they can refocus?
Goals without self-control are called dreams.
What dreams do you have? Have you set timeframes around them happening? If they do, they’re goals. Do your goals seem unattainable? Then break them down into smaller steps.
Do the next thing and the next thing and the thing after that. Be kind to yourself when you fail. Nothing will shut you down quicker than beating yourself up. Remember—judgment squashes creativity – and creativity is vital – regardless of the goal you’re pursuing.
Olympic champion Jesse Owens said, “We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort.”
Self-control surrenders instant gratification for the greater, lasting satisfaction of accomplished goals and lived purpose.
Stop. Breathe. Receive the gift of self-control and let it work to bring your dreams to life.
Dreams come into reality through determination, dedication, self-discipline and effort.
How much is instant gratification derailing the long-term goals in my life?
Through word of encouragement, who can I help stay the course and reach their goals?
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